Self Love



“Our tendency to point out the weaknesses of others is a way to avoid facing our own shortcomings and areas needing improvement.” – Alan E. Nelson

For us to be able to move “From The Me To The We” and to make the Shift it is imperative that each one of us should first know who the “Me” is. For those unaware of their own true nature it will be almost impossible to make that journey. To move on to the next level of our humanity we must realize the difference between our higher and lower emotions.

The emotional frequency we vibrate on acts as a magnet and will draw more of whatever it is that we emote. The lower emotions should be avoided and any time we feel ourselves being dragged down into anger, jealousy, greed, selfishness, envy, hatred and the like we need to realise that depression, sadness and disappointment must surely follow into our experience.

I recently read about two dogs that went into the same room; one came out happy and waging its tail, the other angry and barking. How could the same room have such a different effect on the two dogs, what did the room contain? The simple answer is that all that was in the room was mirrors and the dogs were only seeing a reflection of themselves. Until we love ourselves, we will never love the reflection of us that we see in the lives of others!

To love ourselves with all our faults is the first stage to loving others! To meditate on the following concepts and how to integrate each one of them into our lives will help us with this journey: Love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control (Galatians 5: 22&23). If we cultivate these higher emotions then we will by default weed out the lower ones!

When you look in the mirror what do you see? Do you ever stare into your own eyes and say to yourself “I love you, I really love you!” One man who did this a number of times told his wife that he thought he was developing a kind of schoolboy crush. At first she was alarmed until he told her who he had fallen in love with she said “That’s exactly right we all need to have that love for ourselves!”

Have you ever heard of Thomas Leonard and his “28 Laws of Attraction?” In his preface he tells people to look at the 28 and then to choose just 6 of these “laws of attraction” to adopt. When I saw the list I read “Be Selfish!” and I thought to myself, well there is one I will never adopt! It intrigued me so I went to read it first and what he said was along the lines of: The only way you can ever truly be of help or service to others is by looking after and loving yourself first, and of course he is correct.

Jesus said “How can you say to your brother, ‘Brother, let me take the speck out of your eye,’ when you yourself fail to see the plank in your own eye? You hypocrite, first take the plank out of your eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother’s eye!” (Luke 6 verse 42) a friend of mine once said some people don’t have so much a plank in the eye as a shed on their head!

So we must love ourselves and the spirit of the oneness that resides in us, so that we are prepared to love the oneness in others. This is the meaning of the word Namaste: I honour the place in you in which the entire universe dwells. I honour the place in you which is of love, of truth, of light and of peace. When you are in that place in you, and I am in that place in me, we are one!

Until we are ready to love ourselves and accept that although we are individuals, we all belong together! Until we know that our consciousness has fully awakened and we as individuals have made the shift, our belonging to the oneness will be in question. The concepts of I, me, and mine will continue to rule in our ego laden culture with all the sadness, anger and destruction that follow them.

To make the shift we need to start to love ourselves in a non-egocentric way; because when we do all life on Earth will benefit! Greed and hunger will be gone not because of the interference of politicians, economists or armies, but because in fully loving ourselves we will have learned how to love each other!
Love and light to you from Andrew 🙂 ♥

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