“All successful men and women are big dreamers. They imagine what
their future could be, ideal in every respect, and then they work
every day toward their distant vision, that goal or purpose.” –
Are you a big dreamer? Have you got a great imagination? Do you have clear goals for your life? Are you working towards your goals each day? Yesterday we acknowledged that to be willing to attempt to go for our goals and dreams we need faith; we need to believe that the impossible is possible! Today I want to share with you how to create a new belief.
A belief is like a table top, what holds it in place are the legs. The more legs the table has, the sturdier it becomes. This works for both positive and negative beliefs. The reason you are not going for your dreams (if you aren’t) is because you have negative beliefs around your desired goal. These negative beliefs need to be dis-empowered!
In our dualistic universe for every inside there has to be an outside, for every up there has to be a down, for every positive there has to be a negative. Just like day and night, wrong and right, all we need to do is look at the other side of the coin to find the opposite of our beliefs and the opposite of the reference legs we have supported our negative beliefs with.
We then have a positive belief with positive reference legs to hold it up. We need to speak out and then repeat our new beliefs each day, because that’s how our old negative beliefs became entrenched in our thinking, by simple repetition. Also to find the new reference legs for your new positive beliefs take a look at the environment you grew up in, the education you had, the way things have worked out for you in the past, the events of your life, oh yes and your ability to imagine the outcome you seek.
LIFE IS A PROBLEM SOLVING ACADEMY!
“Believe it can be done. When you believe something can be done,
really believe, your mind will find the ways to do it. Believing
there is a solution paves the way to a solution.” – Dr. David
The only way we are willing to take action in our lives is when we have faith that what we are doing will propel us in the direction we want to go. Yes of course it’s possible for others to make us take actions we think are pointless if they have some leverage over us, like a pay check or a threat of violence against us or the ones we love.
However, the way to motivate yourself is through belief! If you
believe that by taking certain actions you will get closer to what you seek, then you will take the actions you think are necessary. To achieve what you think is unachievable all you have to do is start believing!
Dr. Schwartz tells us that merely believing has an important effect on our thinking! Our thoughts respond to our level of belief, as Henry Ford once said “If you think you can, if you think you can’t, either way your right!” So the question must be “How do we believe that which we previously thought unattainable?”
The simplest of answers to the question just posed is: – If someone has done what you want to do, then it’s humanly possible! You are a human being therefore you can do it! There is a longer answer to the question which I will share with you tomorrow.
THE JOURNEY OF HUMILITY
“Be humble always and identify with the common man; even when
success and achievements want to make you proud.” – Bishop
My way of seeing goals and their accomplishment since I began coaching has always been in terms of my clients moving closer to the fulfillment of their life’s purpose. I had an “aha” moment on the train to a seminar in London in 2006. I was reading Wayne Dyer’s book “Inspiration, your ultimate calling!” when I realized that my whole life to that point had been preparing me to become a Life Coach.
This wasn’t a Mill’s & Boon romantic story that I was reading and yet there were tears falling down my face as the penny finally dropped; I am here on planet Earth to be a Coach. Everything I’d done in my past suddenly made sense. It was like turning round a tapestry that you’d only ever seen from the back, I could now see the beautiful picture of my life, no longer as a jumbled mess, but everything made complete sense.
In my view our lives are not about being proud, or about our successes and achievements, they are not an egotistical journey
where we set selfish goals so we can have, do and be more than other people. Our lives are about being on purpose, fulfilling
the calling that we were sent here to planet Earth to complete,
and to leave the world a better place than before we got here.
On this journey, we should show humility in reference to our
abilities and to see the other person’s point of view, is to vital! Wasn’t it Rudyard Kipling who said in that famous poem of his “If” – “To walk with Kings, nor lose the common touch?” We are spiritual beings having a human experience; we are called to love and to serve our fellow man and to fulfill our destiny. It is my intention to help people do this, and it is why I am a Life Coach.
CREATE YOUR OWN SUCCESS! “Your success and happiness lie in you.” – Helen Keller
What a concept! The story of Helen Keller is the story of a child who, at the age of 19 months, suddenly lost her hearing and vision, and who, against overwhelming odds and with a great deal of persistence, grew into a highly intelligent and sensitive woman who wrote, spoke, and labored incessantly for the betterment of others. So powerful a symbol of triumph over adversity did she become that she has a definite place in the history of our time and of times to come. “http://ht.ly/3U0Ah”
If you follow the link to Helen Keller’s story or if you already know it, you will understand how deeply felt this above quotation was for Helen Keller’s based on her own life’s experience! These are not empty words; they clearly define Helen’s experience and her certainty that you too can achieve success and happiness from within you too.
So many times we blame others for our lack of success, or our lack of happiness and yet the truth is we are always in control of how we interpret the interactions we have with others and the events of our lives. We can learn how to be content it whatsoever circumstances we find ourselves, if we chose to. There is an art to it, but it has always been within the reach of each one of us. If a blind deaf girl can do it, so can you and I!
DARE TO DREAM!
“Unless you try to do something beyond what you have already
mastered, you will never grow.” – Ronald E. Osborn
Here’s a challenge for us all from Robert E. Osborn. Ever heard of growing pains, well here we are being encouraged to embrace some new ones! The truth is most people do what they are good at and leave the rest to somebody else, but those who are willing to take on a new challenge are those whose lives and more interesting and possibly more fulfilled.
Have you any unfinished business, anything you’ve thought you
might like to do and yet you’ve never taken any action to make
it happen? Maybe it’s playing a musical instrument, taking up a
new sport or reading some of the books you’ve had sitting on
the shelf since you bought them. If we are forever learning new
things, taking up new challenges you’ll keep experiencing the
same year over and over.
Life is waiting for you to embrace it’s fullness, don’t allow
yourself to be short changed! Take up a new hobby, dare to dream
and then go for it! Who knows where it all might lead, a new
career, new relationships, excitement oh and yes I almost forgot
growing pains too! 🙂
“Never walk away from failure. On the contrary, study it carefully and imaginatively for its hidden assets.” – Michael Korda
Do you allow your failures to sadden you? Do you ever walk away from a situation that didn’t work out the way you planned it and despair? Do you say to yourself, “I’ll never attempt that again?” Are you someone who is “once bitten twice shy?”
The reason we fail on the perfect path of life that we are traveling on, is so that we can become wise; so that we can grow and be helpful to others when they face similar situations. In this way the human-race progresses from one generation to another.
I think it was Oscar Wilde who said “If at first you don’t succeed try, try again. But when you’ve tried and tried again give up, you don’t need to become silly about it!” So, learn your lessons, your life lessons, but don’t become obsessed with always winning in the game of life.
Maybe in the past you’ve walked away from failure? Your failures have defined you as a quitter and we all know “Winners never quit, and quitters never win!” So now it’s time to welcome life’s challenges and for you to become someone who wants life to reveal to them, the hidden assets that studying failure will give to you?
PEOPLE TO VALUE
“Henry Ford could get anything out of men because he just talked
and would tell them stories. He’d never say, ‘I want this done!’
He’d say, ‘I wonder if we can do it.'” – George Brown
It sounds like Henry Ford was a great encourager and leader. A true leader is someone who is a few steps ahead of you, is on the move and inspires your loyalty by the way he or she speaks to you. They let you know they are with you, they don’t send you off on a wild goose chase, and they want you to do well, so they remain with you till you achieve all that their plans were for you to achieve!
Story telling is something I love to do and love to hear, especially if the one telling the story does it with passion. If they can take you with them step by step, keeping your interest until the story reaches its conclusion and that as it ends some wisdom has been imparted to you, which will help you in your life from that moment on.
Do you know anyone who is like Henry Ford, a great story teller and someone who inspires you to follow them, someone who is on your side, that you can depend on? To have someone like that in your life is a real blessing, to have more than one would be wonderful! Amongst others a Life Coach who is worth their salt, should be aiming to be such a character in the life of their clients.
A few steps ahead of you and yet an inspirer who is truly willing you on to success even on the days when you feel like giving up on your dreams. A Life Coach is someone who holds the flag on the top of the hill, till you arrive their, tired and yet exuberant in the achievement of your pre designed goals.
BELIEF OR BY MY LIFE
“It’s the repetition of affirmations that leads to belief. And
once that belief becomes a deep conviction, things begin to
happen.” – Claude M. Bristol
This statement seems at best like an over simplification of a much more intricate process; or at worst some positive thinker trying to hoodwink the rest of humanity into cloud cuckoo land. Yet, I believe however incompletely, that Claude M. Bristol has given us a major truth, when understanding the way the mind works.
I would add that merely repeating “There are no weeds! There are no weeds!” will have no effect whatsoever when it comes to successful gardening! Words without action are dead! To affirm something, but then not to take action on that belief, suggests to me that you have little or no conviction that what you have said is true!
Instead of saying “belief” or “I believe” say “by my life!” In other words, by my actions you will be able to see that what I am saying is true! The “you” in what I have just said is not only meant for the onlooker; but also for the one making the affirmation too! We need evidence that what we say will happen is going to happen, and the best placed person to provide that evidence, is the one who is making the affirmation!
It is true to say that the repetition of affirmations, when stated with passion and certainty of the outcome, will lead to the acceptance of a belief that we haven’t previously held! Our actions to “make it so” start a chain reaction which makes those things we have little or no control of to start to fall into place too.
GETTING IT RIGHT
“You only have to do a very few things right in your life so long
as you don’t do too many things wrong.” – Warren Buffett
I don’t know if you agree with Warren Buffett on this one, but in his opinion life is not that complicated and it’s easier to have a happy fulfilled life than we maybe have been lead to believe. If this statement is correct, we don’t have too much to worry about; life is simply a matter of getting a few important things working properly for us and then as long as we don’t mess up too often, all will be well.
I like the simple life, where everything goes like clockwork and many of us feel if we are left alone to get on with things, we’d do fine. It’s only when our interactions with others seem to challenge us to live differently that we need to reconsider where we’re going.
Whether Warren Buffett’s statement works as a philosophy is worth considering, why not try it out? Even when others challenge
your way of life, be of the opinion that as long as you get the main things in your life right and not many things wrong; then you needn’t be dragged off onto some wild goose chase considering other people’s interactions with you as a challenge to the way you live. They are just living their lives their way and they should be allowed to do that.
If you do decide that you need to change, then do it slowly and deliberately, checking to see what is working and what isn’t. That way you can avoid the big mistakes our quote warns us of.
DO YOU BELIEVE IN MURPHY’S LAW?
“The difference between success and mediocrity is all in the way
you think.” – Dean Francis
How do you think? Are you someone who expects success, or do you expect Murphy’s Law to work against you, every step of the way? Are you an optimist, a pessimist or a realist? I’ll tell you now, I’m an optimist!
W. Clement Stone a personal friend of Napoleon Hill who wrote
“Think and Grow Rich” believed that circumstances were constantly engineering themselves to bless him and his family. When something bad happened to him he would always see it as a blessing in disguise, and he would wonder how this seemingly unpleasant situation would turn out for his good in the end.
When I first read about W. Clement Stone, I thought the guy was at best a little naive, or at worst that he he’d lost the plot; but then I thought it through. To consciously adopt the opposite view to Stone I’d be a fool, it would be like shooting myself in the foot; to imagine that Murphy’s Law was always at work, messing things up for me. “If it can go wrong it will!” didn’t seem to be a great philosophy to live with.
If you say that neither Murphy nor Stone are correct, then in my view what you are left with is mediocrity! You’d be saying,
“Some day’s things go well, some day’s they don’t, hey ho that’s life!” At best there is uncertainty for you, at worst you’ll feel that your life is out of your control, you’ll be holding others responsible for what happens in your life or the circumstances that you are experiencing, instead of knowing the success of thinking “If it’s going to be, it’s up to me!”