Category Archives: 01 Handle On Life

Becoming The Source Of Good

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In this cause and effect universe that we live in, the causes we set in motion today will eventually become the effects we will receive in our tomorrows down the road. We reap what we sow, karma is nothing more than the consequences of our own actions!

For this reason, the more self-aware we are. the less likely it will become that we’ll sow the seeds of unpleasantness and hardship for ourselves down the line. We need to find ways to make ourselves more aware, more awake, more conscious.

Each time we stumble across a way to attain the identity of the watcher of our own lives, then a little light is shone and the darkness, and implications of those unknowing actions of our lives, is dispelled.

Let the light of self-awareness shine in your life and mine today! May we be those who are sowing actions of love and ones who no longer remain in the darkness of reacting to the events of our lives.

Let us not be one of those hurt people, who hurt people (including ourselves). Let us instead be those who take our time to respond and in so doing become the source of good in our own lives.

Have Patience

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Have patience, be in no hurry, take your time! Don’t beat yourself up, Spring is on its way, everything grows at its own pace! Imperceptibly slow it may seem, but nature’s replenishment is about to begin, the buds will soon be seen where only death seemed to be.

Relentless and without fault, life continues to blossom and flourish, year by year, it may seem delayed, but it’s coming! Spring will soon have sprung, and the darkness and barrenness of winter will be gone! Life is living you too; you are no different as you begin each new cycle!

As you move to a new neighbourhood, start a new job, fall in love once more. As you feel clumsy, awkward, unfamiliar and unknowing, life springs on eternal within you. Trust the process, trust yourself, the student becomes the master, and all will be well! Have patience!

Total Freedom

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Total freedom is the absence of all rules, both the rules of society and those of our own making. Freedom is where the dualism ends and unity consciousness returns, in our perception of it.

When we accept external rules, we become subject to them and we are no longer free to be ourselves in society. When we accept internal or self-imposed rules we imprison our spirits from becoming who we are capable of being.

Total freedom is to not only know and be aware of our integrated place in life as part of the isness of it all, the unity of all that is, in some static meditatory sense. Instead, it is when we are actively playing our natural part, not just in living our lives, but letting life live itself out through us.

Let our heartbeats be in rhythm with the heartbeat of the universe! May we lose ourselves in that heartbeat and may that heartbeat lose itself in us! As we become one with all that is, rules will become superfluous; because how can you insist something or someone to be what they already are, or to stop them being what they are not!

Peace In Your Heart

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Each one of us is seeking peace, desiring peace and aiming for peace in our hearts, but are we deserving of that peace? If peace within our troubled hearts eludes us, is there a reason for it and is there a simple way to change that outcome from being the one we get?

Life is participatory! Taking the time to sit in silence and to contemplate our place in the universe isn’t the full picture of how we can find peace. When we seek that peace, the peace which passes all understanding, merely the stilling of ourselves in the presence of the Great I AM, is not enough.

As I have said many times before, each one of us is unique and each one of us in finding our passion will find our purpose. One of the scriptures says: “Whatever is in thy hand, do it with all thy might!” Life is about our actions as well as the humility needed to sit in awe of the wonder of it all.

The Principal at the Bible School I attended had a saying which stuck in my mind and in my heart: “Man’s extremity, is God’s opportunity!” He explained it as – the miraculous can only occur, when we have done all we can do to bring about the impossible. That’s when God steps in, according to Dr Arthur Skevington-Wood of Cliff College.

If you are looking for peace and you see someone (including you) in need of peace and you are able to do something to help them find that peace, do it! Fulfil your destiny, be who you were meant to be, discover your passion, find your purpose and go for it! Then take time out along the journey to sit in silence and you will find peace at a depth you have never experienced it before!

Like breathing in and breathing out, as you do your part in being a peace bringer you will be at peace in your heart. Everyone deserves peace, but not everyone is being proactive in peace’s pursuit. If you seek peace, don’t forget to be a peace-bringer!

Wise Men Find Peace Within

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Are you chasing the wind? Are you looking for peace, seeking for your dreams, going after something you perceive as missing from your life?

Have you seen Holman Hunt’s painting entitled “Light of the World?” He has Jesus stood outside a door overgrown with foliage holding a lamp and it often is coupled with the caption “Behold I stand at the door and knock. If any man hears my voice and open the door, I will come in and sup with him and he with me!”

It is a sad picture, because if you are out chasing the wind, how can you ever answer the door to the Prince of Peace, who has come looking for you!

Many years ago, James Thomas East the hymn writer wanted so badly to visit the Holy Land to see with his own eyes where the story of Christianity began and started saving up for the trip. When he had almost got the funds required, his sister became grievously ill and needed a doctor. In using up all his savings he found the healing she so desperately needed. He then wrote these words.

“Wise men seeking Jesus
Travelled from afar,
Guided on their journey
By a beauteous star.
But if we desire him,
He is close at hand;
For our native country
Is our Holy Land.

Prayerful souls may find him
By our quiet lakes,
Meet him on our hillsides
When the morning breaks.
In our fertile cornfields
While the sheaves are bound,
In our busy markets
Jesus may be found.

Every peaceful village
In our land might be,
Made by Jesus’ presence
Like sweet Bethany.
He is more than near us,
If we love him well;
For He seeketh ever
In our hearts to dwell.”

Peace is right here and right now! It’s time to stop chasing it, and instead to sit quietly and wait patiently. It will come knocking on the door of your heart. The Psalmist reminds us “Be still and know that I am god!” And be being still you will know how to find peace!

Seeing What’s Real

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Can you see what is real? “Of course, I can see what is real!” you might reply; but can you? The unenlightened are tethered to the world of form, of flesh and blood, of temporal certainty. They believe only the evidence of the five senses and declare this to be reality.

This view of the world is comforting in part, but sometimes the evidence can be disturbing. Our reality when described this way, can become a picture of lack, a nightmare of desperation, destruction and even death! I hope you can see a much deeper reality than this?

Maybe you will disagree with me and think me quite mad, but I see something much more beautiful and profound than the three/four-dimensional world of space/time reality.

I see into the benign essence of universal love and light. I see into the purpose, passion and precise perfection of universal love and light. I may have only had glimpses of it, but it has reassured me that this life isn’t all there is and that that this deeper eternal reality is worth belonging to.

What can you see?

The Ebb and Flow Of Life

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The ego wants its own way; and when things go its way, then it sees itself as triumphant, powerful and no longer needing to strive. Yet, the stresses and strains of this life come don’t come from the ego not getting its way, but from the ego itself!

What if those feelings of triumph, power and the lack of striving, arrive to the ego merely because of coincidence and not in any way in relation to the intended interference of the ego’s will?

I remember that the words of St Paul affected me deeply when I read: “I have learned in whatsoever circumstances I find myself, to be content!” (Phil 4:12) It was a major lesson for me in controlling my egotistical desires which many times have ended in frustration, anger and resentment.

To be at peace, you don’t need to get your own way! You only need to recognise that life’s ups and downs are part of its ebbing and flowing! To be at peace, is to accept what is and not to be “kicking against the goads” as the Damascene bound Saul of Tarsus was doing as the heavenly voice spoke to him. (Acts 26:14)

Finding Peace

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Are you living life or is life living you? In the same way that a tree grows from an acorn to a mighty oak (as the life force of the universe flows through you, are you fighting nature’s course for your life or) are you going with the flow?

Each part of the eco-system has its role to fulfil and you are no exception. Much has been given to us in our sentient humanity and so much is expected! There are more than seven and a half billion people on the planet, but only one like you!

If you meditate or pray on this and go deep within, not only will you find peace, but also bit by bit you’ll become aware of the plan that is unique to you and then each day you will not just live life, but life will live you, as it was always meant to do.

Going with the flow is easy, because when you do, you won’t be thinking as much, because you will be who you were already intended to be, and you will be living … really living life!

The Untroubled Heart Guy


Yesterday I had a life changing conversation, I met with a moment of destiny in which the universe came and first tapped me in the shoulder and then challenged me head on. This student was ready, and the teacher appeared!

As September began I wrote an article about new beginnings. In my mind was the beginning of the new school year, my eldest grandson was starting senior school and I was ready to do things differently myself too. Since then I have added something new to my blog ever day, I do hope that if you have been reading these articles that they have been a blessing to you.

So here we are at the end of the month and in my mind today always reminds me of the day after completing my summer job and having a couple of weeks holiday I started my career at Barclays Bank. Well 43 years later I am starting my new career as “The Guy with the Untroubled Heart!”

I have a plan for how to bring about my legacy, for the message of love I want to leave the world! A clear path has be plotted out ahead of me and I am nailing my colours to the mast as the month ends, this is the first time you will have the opportunity to read these words from me. My book “The Untroubled Heart” will be published in time for Christmas and you’ll be able to pre-order it very soon.

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Choose To Embrace Change!


Many years ago I heard a sermon which celebrated the unchanging nature of God. That you could rely that the divine was to be relied upon, a steadfast rock of certainty on which you and I can build our lives, and the message reminded us how wonderful it is to have friends who no matter how long the time gap between our meetings them are always the same. Today, I want to share with you my thoughts on change.

I believe that if you and I don’t embrace the unfolding nature of the universe and all the possibilities of growth and change, we will miss out so much of the intended experiences of this life! That although the live inside us should remain and grow, we are meant to be changelings forever re-emerging and re-inventing ourselves with both planned and unplanned personal expression.

Religion would have us always locked into prescribe ways of behaviour, but life itself is known for the way it develops. I was brought up in a non-conformist (Methodist) religious background being told to conform to certain rules and behaviours. It makes me smile! Methodists prided themselves in being those who didn’t conform to Roman Catholic or Church of England principles, but they conformed to Methodist ones!

The bible says “Don’t be conformed to this world; but be transformed by the renewal of your mind!” (Romans 12:2) and yet the conformity of Christianity continues! I say choose to embrace change, because in this evolving story of the universe constant change is here to stay! Open yourself up to the possible changing of your views and see your life expand.

It’s going to be exhilarating, exciting and as long as we underpin our lives with ever growing love we will be able to rely upon each other in the changing and unfolding nature of the dualistic nature of our present so called reality!

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