SEE THE GOOD IN OTHERS AND TELL THEM WHAT YOU SEE!
“I praise loudly; I blame softly.” – Queen Catherine II
The way we present our opinions to others has a direct effect on how they perceive us. By being someone who is forever praising the good in others, we will be remembered as someone who can see the good in them, when all others ever seem to do is see the bad.
I used to have a boss who seemed to be always criticising me for every little thing I did wrong and very rarely had any words of encouragement for me. In some ways it didn’t matter, because I had decided to do my best in spite of him, but I am sure speaking to employees in that way is not conducive to getting the best out of them.
We all like to be praised, it helps us to gain self-esteem, and we all remember the kind words that people have said to us, often years after they were spoken. A much greater man once said “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you!”
So, if you would like people to praise you, then it must be worth giving praise where it is due, as the act of giving praise will always be appreciated. As for blaming, well if you really must do it, then do it quietly. Blaming others usually includes giving away our power to affect the outcomes we would like.
If someone else is able to affect our lives for the bad, we must have abdicated the will to change things to the way we want them to be. So the fewer people who hear us do that the better!