Time To Soar



“Man must rise above the Earth—to the top of the atmosphere and beyond—for only thus will he fully understand the world in which he lives!” – Socrates

One of the real benefits of having a Life Coach is that they can help you recognise where you are doing things habitually which are preventing you from getting where you want to go in your life. It is my intention that through my online “Handle On Life” I will with your permission help to remove you from auto-pilot in your life.

Each one of us has a deep seated desire to achieve things in our lives, what stop us is having a default setting for our behaviours.  I suggest that you become the Michelangelo in your own life and begin to sculpt the person you always intended to be. It is my assertion that my “Handle On Life” program  will help you do just that!

Through a series of videos, audios and workbooks as well as live interaction with me; you will began to recognise the beliefs, rules and values that you have inherited from others which are now preventing you from moving forward in your life. Have you ever thought why it is that you never seem to get where you want to go?

My “Handle On Life” course will help you create new beliefs, rules and values which will help you to soar, where you used to stay on the floor. I am thrilled to be able to share with you my 25+ years of study into the fascinating subject of results focused psychology and 10 years of experience in coaching people one on one.

I know it all seems a bit grand, but when you consider that in partnership we are about to create a new you through tried and tested tools and techniques, which I have used myself and had a ring side seat to watch others do the same. I don’t think it would be wise to belittle the possible impact that “Handle On Life” will have on you.

As further details emerge about the product in the next few days on my blog, please keep returning here to my blog to find out more or visit  the “Handle On Life” Facebook page at https://www.facebook.com/HandleOnLife/  #HandleOnLife

Handle On Life

Handle On Life


“How you handle the challenges of your life will define your life!” – Billy Cox

Many years ago now, I woke up from a dream with the words of a family member echoing in my head. She said to me (in the dream) I wish someone would help me get a handle on life. I have a pen and notebook by the side of my bed for such an occasion, so I wrote it down “Handle On Life” and found the .com and .co.uk were available.

So here I am now excitedly about to launch my online coaching course called “Handle On Life” and as I engage in it’s preparations I want to let you know why I believe my course will be something you and many others will love. All of my life I have been fascinated why people say and do the things they say and do.

For the past 25 years plus, I have made a personal study of the popular psychology that exists around this subject. I have read many authors, listened  to many cassettes, cds and audio downloads of the great and the good in the field of personal development and read many biographies and auto-biographies (they are the best).

In recent years I have myself recorded many videos, audios and written inspirational articles and poems, which I have made freely available through social media. I am now inviting you to sit in the empty beach chair next to me (see the photo above) and let me share with you my “Handle On Life.”

Further details will emerge about this product in the next few days on my blog. Until then if you want to be sure keep up to date with what is going one with “Handle On Life” besides coming back here to my blog you can visit the Handle On Life presence on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/HandleOnLife/ and like the page.

What To Do Next?

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“I used to be indecisive; now I’m not sure!” – Graffiti

After the recent referendum vote here in the UK many of our leaders seem unsure of what to do next. It’s almost as if they really didn’t expect a “Leave the EU” vote to be on the cards. There seems to have never been a real plan made for how we would negotiate our way out of the European Union.

This indecision has created doubts in the financial markets and the value of the pound has dropped. Many politicians seem to be more interested in how they can use what has happened to help their own personal ambitions or causes, rather than focusing in on what to do next, to help our nation and to calm the waves of uncertainty.

This led me to think about how many times we are faced with dilemmas in our own lives. What happens then, how do we resolved our own quandaries? How we behave in given circumstances is usually based on what we were told to do in the past by those we have trusted, or by the experiences of our past lives.

For anyone who finds themselves regularly feeling like the cat caught in the glare of the headlamps of an oncoming vehicle, I may have a solution. I am going to be soon announcing the arrival of my own online Life Coaching Course “Handle On Life” in which I will share some really helpful ideas that can help you in decision making.

The online course will not be as tailored as working with me one on one, but I know that the wisdom I have gained and will share with you will help. “Handle On Life” is based on the last 10 years of my Coaching practice and on more than a quarter of a century of my personal study into how to get the results you want in your life.

I’ll be back tomorrow with more information about “Handle On Life”

I’m Done (Friday Poem)

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Written & © Copyright 2016
by Andrew Paul Smith 160522

I’m done with the past
It’s a land I can’t visit
Memories are a double edged sword
The joys I’ve shared that I miss
The horrible things I lived through

I’m done with the future
All its hopes and dreams
The illusory nature of what could be
The fear of things not going my way
Or putting off joy till another day

I’m living now and I will face
All the obstacles around me
One by one I will beat them all
And I promise myself
To enjoy and trust the process

I am alive now, my heart is beating
I have love, I have friendship
People who touch my soul
In the here and now

I’m done!




“I think most of us are raised with preconceived notions of the choices we’re supposed to make. We waste so much time making decisions based on someone else’s idea of our happiness – what will make you a good citizen or a good wife or daughter or actress. Nobody says, ‘Just be happy – go be a cobbler or go live with goats!” – Sandra Bullock

Life is made up of so many different choices, but despite being free to make your own, you have a default setting that those who raised you imparted. That auto-pilot choice, which you must learn to transcend, doesn’t free you from the consequences of the things you choose after you’ve grown beyond it.

So, although it’s an amazing step to make, once you start choosing for yourself you have to get smart. If you don’t like the results, make different and hopefully better choices! Some choices are minor and you can hardly feel the shift you’ve made as you stop listening to the script your parents handed you, but other choices are life changing.

I was told by my Life Coach that I could believe anything I wanted to, I disagreed, and for two weeks I had an inner dialogue about why. Eventually I came to the conclusion that I was unable to believe anything because I had adopted the identity “I am a Christian”  and that the beliefs of a Christian were the only ones I could hold.

The “aha” “eureka” moment of revelation that was life changing for me was that although I maybe a Christian, I am much more than that. I am the one who chose to become a Christian! It may not seem that amazing to you, but for me it became a decisive moment in my life for me, the day I realised I have the ability to choose anything.

Do you fall into old familiar patterns? Are you working on auto-pilot, or are you designing your life and becoming the person you choose to be. I believe most people are: “living lives of quiet desperation” because they aren’t choosing and I challenge you, however difficult it maybe initially, for you to start breaking old patterns, to choose.

To have a life coach that can help you to see the multiple choices you may think you don’t have and to live your life on your terms, please email me at “andrewpaulsmith@hotmail.co.uk” and put “Handle On Life” in the subject line.

“Everything in your life is a reflection of a choice you have made. If you want a different result, make a different choice!”

You Are Part Of The Divine Essence!



“Love said to me, there is nothing that is not me. Be silent!” – Rumi

The word namaste simply invokes a sense of sharing a spiritual
connection and creates a sense and feeling of oneness and balance. When we say namaste and bow we recognise that we believe that the Diving wisdom or light in me recognises and acknowledges the Divine wisdom or light in you.

From a quantum theory point of view we are entangled into a oneness of super-position. We are life appearing in several (trillions) of places at once and throughout ll time. We are parts of the same divine essence and yet “part” suggests a separation and yet we are not separate, we are one.

We are on a divine mission to collect new data, we are here to find out the depth of this universe we have created, discovering all the nooks and crannies of existence. We are the universe understanding itself, the divine observer, without which nothing exists. “So what!” you might say, “What’s that got to do with the price of fish?”

Well as a life coach, I believe it matters a lot! If I am coaching you and I believe all these things I have said, and I do, then I believe I am best placed to help you fulfil your purpose and your passion. My stand point is that I have been called to inspire and encourage as many people as are willing to listen to and work with me.

These beliefs, although I speak of them here as clearly as my intellect allows me to, are not the focus of my coaching activities. The focus for my work is each precious individuation of the divine essence who wants me to help them in their journey. It may seem a little airy fairy, but I promise you that it is rubber hits the road stuff!

E mail me at andrewpaulsmith@hotmail.co.uk if you would like to work with me in becoming all that you were destined to be and place “Handle On Life” in the subject box. Here’s a final word is from Rumi:  “Although you appear in earthly form, your essence is pure consciousness. You are the fearless guardian of Divine Light!”


You Are Magnificent!




You are not IN the universe, you ARE the universe, an intrinsic part of it. Ultimately, you are not a person, but a focal point where the universe is becoming conscious of itself. What an amazing miracle!” Eckhart Tolle

I believe we all came here to live this human life with a purpose. I believe there was a plan for your life and mine, that we signed up for it before we got here. We knew what it was that we were sent into the duality to do and yet part of the rules for getting here is that we must first forget the plan before we can properly take part.

We were as Wayne Dyer said NOWHERE and then we came to a place and time we call NOW HERE and eventually we will return to NOWHERE. That “we are caught in this parenthesis in eternity which is our service to god” It’s supposed to be a fun ride, if we don’t take it all too personally or seriously, the great roller-coaster of life.

You are a magnificent part of god sent here amongst other things, to enlarge the experiences and understanding that god or the universe has of itself. You don’t have to believe me but if you do, will that enhance the ride for you, will it help you make sense of your day to day life? I think it will!

We all play god in our own universe either by living on auto-pilot, acquiescing to the desires of others for our lives or making our own decisions. Part of my work as a coach is to help people realise that the decisions they are making are based on their beliefs, rules and values; we find out where these beliefs, rules and values originated.

If the client believes their strategy for life is working, we leave well alone; but if not, we work on dis-empowering the old beliefs, rules and values and empowering some new ones. It’s a case of trial and error,  but long term by using this method people get to where they want to be in life, and get to fulfil their purpose.

Please email me at andrewpaulsmith@hotmail.co.uk and put “HANDLE ON LIFE” is the subject line so I can contact you to speak with you about how I can help you to rediscover the magnificence that you really are.  I’d love to work alongside you in helping you to become who you were always meant to be.

I hope you will with me as Debasish Mridha  said: “Embrace the magnificence that is inside you!”

Are You An Inverse Paranoid?



“W. Clement Stone was an “Inverse Paranoid” instead of believing the world was plotting to do him harm, he actually chose to believe the world was always plotting to do him good.!” – Jack Canfield

The future is an un-visited country and there is nothing to fear of it! Why is that, you might ask. Well, if you realise the only moment we can ever act is the moment we call now, and the future when it arrives will be now. So the only time we meet the future, is at the time of empowerment in our lives.

So why worry? It’s totally counter productive! Jack Canfield’s mentor W. Clement Stone who helped with the writing of Napoleon Hill’s other famous book “Success Through A Positive Mental Attitude” believed the opposite of “Murphy’s Law” he believed if it could go right, it would go right!

Napoleon Hill’s most famous book “Think And Grow Rich” contains within it’s title the suggestion that it is in our thoughts that our future path is created. We think it and then we create it; so why not become (if you aren’t already) an “Inverse Paranoid.” Personally, I think it has to make a lot of sense.

Thinking about the future with fear, may well be creating all the problems you don’t want. A bit like shooting yourself in the foot, but whereas the foot may heal up, without a change of mind continuing to live your life in fear will eat away at anything good that might happen, if your thoughts do in fact create your reality.

In the same way that Kevin Costner’s character in “Field Of Dreams” was told: people will come; I am telling you that blessings are on their way to you. All you have to do is believe and then keep looking out for their arrival with faith. Maybe you and I can be founder members of a “Inverse Paranoid Society?”

Please write to me at “andrewpaulsmith@hotmail.co.uk” and put “Inverse Paranoid” in the subject line.  I’ll give the last word to W. Clement Stone “There is little difference in people, but that little difference makes a big difference. The little difference is attitude. The big difference is whether it is positive or negative.”


Permission (Friday Poem)

Monarch Butterfly

Written & © Copyright 2016
by Andrew Paul Smith 160522

I no longer need permission
I don’t need approval
I’m finally being me
Doing my own thing

Not trying to fit in
Not being anyone’s fool
The end of contemplation
Analising in the past

Living in the now
Wherever the spirit leads
Embracing the darkness
Of the emperor’s new clothes

Looking through my own eyes
The filters have fallen
The interpretation of others
Don’t interest me any more

I’ve always sought permission
Always wanted to have approval
External views plagued me
But now I live from me

Believing In Yourself



“Without Confidence in yourself you will continue to struggle to achieve the things that you want to achieve in your life…the truth is that you most likely won’t even try to attain most of the things you dream of, because if “you don’t try you can’t fail” but the only true failure is the failure to participate in your own life!” – Liz Ivory

You don’t need fixing! All the personal development and self-help materials in the world won’t ever really help you! The reason for this, is that they were written and made for mass consumption. Oh yes, there are many great techniques and insights that are worth knowing about, but none of them are as effective as they make out.

I truly believe that there is a flaw in holding to a philosophy of Personal Improvement, especially if you believe, like I do, that there’s nothing wrong with people.  Perception is a strange thing, the best view of your life is the one you hold within yourself. If accept other people’s observations about you as true you will be sunk!

Rumi said: “Stop acting so small. You are the universe in ecstatic motion!” You may have read an earlier article of mine in which I described each one of us a bucket full of god. In it I suggested that if you take a bucket of water out of the ocean it is still ocean water that it contains, in this context I believe that each one of us is god.

I believe each of us is on a journey. Like the prodigal son in the story Jesus told, we left our home in bliss of heaven, to enter this duality of contrasts, and that through our own personal discovery we become enlightened and return to the peace we knew when we were part of the oneness.

I want you to know, that I believe in you and that my work as your inspirational coach won’t be to fix you, but to help you rediscover the magnificence which is yours. Others may have doubted you, but I believe it’s not important whether those around believe in you or not but it is quintessentially important that you do.

Please email me at apsmithonline@gmail.com and put “HANDLE ON LIFE” is the subject line so I can contact you to speak with you about how I can help you to rediscover the magnificence that you really are. As a personal coach, I tailor my coaching to each individual client and that’s why I’m blessed with the testimonials I have.

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