Building Relationships

TEAMWORK MAKES THE DREAM WORK!

“Teamwork is the long word for success.” – Jacqueline Mae A.
Rudd

No man (or woman) is an island. If we want to get anywhere in life we need to build both personal and business relationships.

The more people we know, the more likelihood there is that success will come to us. It is also in the giving of our time and effort to these two types of relationships, that we endear ourselves to others.

If we are constantly on a mission to find out how we can be of service to others, we will be far better placed to ask for their
help at the appropriate time.

Improving Your Self-Image

SEE YOURSELF AS SPECIAL

“No matter how small, acknowledge the achievement.” – Greg Henry Quinn

Whether it is our own success or that of someone else, it needs congratulating. Many people do acts of kindness each day, that so many others take for granted. A thank you costs nothing.

One of the key mistakes people make in their lives in my
experience as a life coach is that they don’t see themselves in
anyway special. They have concluded that anyone could do what
they have done in their lives. How have they reached this
conclusion, it’s simple: because they can do it, it must be
simple.

To get a better self image, to see ourselves as worthy people we
need to be willing to be aware of our achievements and if no-one
else tells us how amazing our achievements are, we must tell
ourselves.

Enthusiasm

IN TUNE WITH THE HEARTBEAT AND HARMONY OF THE UNIVERSE

“Nothing is so contagious as enthusiasm. It moves stones, it charms brutes. Enthusiasm is the genius of sincerity, and truth accomplishes no victories without it.” – Edward Bulwer-Lytton 

According to the Merriam-Webster dictionary the origin of the word ENTHUSIASM is the Greek word enthousiasmos, which itself is taken from enthousiazein which means to be inspired. In its irregular form it is written entheos inspired, from en- + theos god. So enthusiasm literally means “from god” or in spirit / inspired! Its first recorded use in English was in 1603.

It is therefore no wonder at all that, which is from the source of all things, is contagious! I have spent more than three years on Facebook sharing words of inspiration, challenge and encouragement. When the idea of a group called “Be Inspired!” first entered my mind 21 months ago I knew it would grow quickly, because everyone loves to “Be Inspired!”

When you are inspired and enthusiastic, then you are in tune with the heartbeat and harmony of the universe! Like love and light, enthusiasm exists on a higher frequency and once it takes hold of you the impossible can be done almost immediately, even though miracles may take a little longer! Now you can see why I seek to inspire others? It is the one way I know to make the world a better place!

Have you got some stones to move? Have you got a brute to charm? Do you need to express something with sincerity? Do you want your truth to win the day and be a blessing to others? Well, in that case you need to get inspired and work out those enthusiasm muscles of yours instead of sitting there with a long face and a heavy heart. Put a smile on your face, god is with you!

Have A Healthy Attitude Towards Life

A REVERSE PARANOID!

“Perpetual optimism is a force multiplier.” – Colin Powell

Are you a reverse paranoid? I am! The reason I decided to adopt such a philosophy was because I read that W. Clement Stone, (who co-authored a book with Napoleon Hill called “Success Through A Positive Mental Attitude”) practised this belief every day. If something went wrong, he always mused to himself: “I wonder how this will turn out to bless me!”

It seemed to me to be a healthy attitude to have about life. After all, hasn’t it been your experience that you are where you are today due to the steps you took to correct some tragedy or problem that showed up in your life? The less time you spend feeling sad and sorry for yourself, before deciding take action and move forward, the more quickly you will accomplish your dreams!

Living this way will propel you forward in your life just as Colin Powell says with the same effect as a “force multiplier! The momentum of the positive impact of your life force on yourself and others, will build up and make your achievements stand out from the crowd.

We all have a choice between pessimism, realism and optimism. The
optimist can recover faster from ill fortune and propel themselves further forward more quickly than the pessimist and the realist. Optimism is my choice every time! Still what would you expect from a reverse paranoid!

Ordinary and Extraordinary

LEARNING FROM PAST MISTAKES

“It’s amazing what ordinary people can do if they set out without
preconceived notions.” – Charles F. Kettering

All we can ever do when calling on our experiences to determine our actions is consider what worked for us before and what didn’t. This makes us comfortable in following the patterns that have kept us safe in the past and stops us from doing the things we have previously found painful.

However, although I wouldn’t advise you to ignore plain common
sense, maybe it’s worth asking yourself what you have learnt from you past mistakes. If you were to do those things that didn’t work out the way you wanted them to in the past, how would you do them differently today?

We have preconceived notions in our heads that we’ve made up from our experiences, but some of them no longer serve us. They
hold us back and need to be challenged, if we are ever to do extraordinary things with our lives.

Ability and Character

STRUGGLES AND TRIUMPHS

“Ability may take you to the top, but it takes character to stay
there.” – William Blake

Isn’t it true to say that when we are pursuing our goals, when we feel the pain of having not yet arrived at our desired destination we feel challenged and motivated? Isn’t it also true that once we have achieved what we have set out to achieve, we feel we are well within our rights, to let our hair down and party?

The person who diets and achieves their target weight through
exercise and cutting out fatty foods is further challenged to stay at their target weight and yet so few people do. They relax and convince themselves that now they have lost the weight surely one cream bun can’t harm them.

My Mum was a lifetime member of Slimming World and yet she died
suddenly with a heart attack due to obesity. Over her lifetime I saw her lose weight and then put it back on again many times. So, I know all too well about the difficult we have as human beings to having arrived at our desired destination to then have the character to stay there.

I am my mother’s son and I too have struggled with obesity all my adult life, this is why I site this example to explain William Blake’s words. I know now that what I need is the character to continue eating in the way that has enabled me to lose thirty pounds in recent months and to stop myself going back to my old ways of eating.

What triumphs have you had in your past, that are no longer part of your experience today? By developing the back bone of character you will be able to return to those triumphs and keep them current in your life from then on!

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WHAT IS YOUR GREATEST ACHIEVEMENT

“You measure the size of the accomplishment by the obstacles you
had to overcome to reach your goals.” – Booker T. Washington

What in your opinion is your greatest achievement? When you look back at it now, do you see that it is considered by yourself to be so because of all the obstacles you overcame in getting there?

For you to consider that your life is taking you somewhere to be proud of, you must be willing to set yourself goals that seem difficult to achieve. It is in the overcoming of the problems we face each day that our self worth increases and life becomes much sweeter.

Do you have goals? Are you someone who considers yourself to be
goal orientated? When a problem comes your way do you see it as
an opportunity to panic or to grow?

Following The Prime Directive

PLEASING EVERYBODY

“I don’t know the key to success, but the key to failure is trying to please everybody.” – Bill Cosby

Part of many people’s social conditioning is based on the respect of other’s feelings, which on the face of it seems loving and caring. Surely you wouldn’t go out of your way to be obnoxious or annoying to another person, it can’t be the way to “Win friends and influence people”, can it? We need to love and help one another; we must put other people’s feelings in front of our own!

In Sunday School I was taught along with my class mates, the way to find JOY was to put Jesus first, Other’s second and Yourself last! I am sure you see the contradiction coming! It is my experience that by following this social conditioning and Sunday School training, some people will take advantage of your attempted kindness and caring and in some cases walk all over you.

I saw a woman pushing a pram with shopping hung over the side of it, maybe four or five backs. She was a t the bottom of a steep hill, it was a windy day and the rain was quite heavy. My heart went out to her, in the midst of her struggle as I drove past in my large estate car alone. Why didn’t I stop and help the lady?

I wanted to, all I had ever been taught about good behaviour said I should and yet, she didn’t know me and would possibly be suspicious of a man wanting her inside his car (a sad reflection on society – I observed). The thing was I didn’t know what her life-path was, she was merely going about her daily business and so should I! In the Star Trek philosophy, it’s the Prime Directive – non-interference.

We need to look after ourselves, be responsible for our own actions, and although help and kindnesses should be shown to others, pleasing everyone in physically and emotionally impossible to do. Jesus said “Take the plank out of your own eye, before trying to help your brother with the speck in his!” A friend of mine once said: “It’s not so much that some people have a plank in their eye, but a shed on their head!”

The Secret Of Success

CONSISTENCY OF PURPOSE

“The secret of success is consistency of purpose.” – Benjamin
Disraeli

No half-hearted attempt will ever get us triumphantly to our desired destination. Our indifference to the task in hand will not help us to reach our goal, however insignificant that goal may be. We need to be resolute in our approach, determined to succeed before we can expect to win.

It’s of no long term benefit to take a short-term outlook to what we would like to become known as the main achievements of our lives. When we have a purpose, a vision, a destiny in mind; when we commit ourselves to that purpose and tell ourselves that there is no going back. Then we will know the struggles of the journey and the sweet taste of victory against the odds to be the person we intended to be and to do things we always intended to do.

We must stand for something or we’ll end up falling for anything. Surely your life and mine are worth more than to simply exist; to be born, to breath, to eat, to sleep, to work; to live and to die. Our lives are only going to become extra-ordinary when we chose for them to be so and to find some high purpose to be continually committed to.

Benjamin Disraeli made his mark on the world, he was Britain’s first and so far only Prime Minister who was born into a Jewish family. He served in government for the best part of thirty years, twice as Prime Minister and played an instrumental role in the creation of the modern UK Conservative Party. He knew what he spoke of through first-hand experience; to be successful you must have consistency of purpose!