“Optimists are right. So are pessimists. It’s up to you to choose
which you will be.” – Harvey Mackay
Henry Ford said: “ “If you think you can, if you think you’re can’t; either way you are right!” and Harvey McKay is saying much the same thing here.
I once had a very long conversation with someone who said they
were neither a pessimist nor an optimist; they said they were a
realist. As the conversation went along it seemed to me that my
friend was in fact a pessimist. At least their outlook appeared very negative, they were disdainful of the optimistic point of view, describing it as “looking at the world through rose tinted glasses.”
It is my observation and the observation of many others too, that
we get not what we want but what we expect. The people with
optimistic expectations will always have more joy and happiness in their lives than their pessimistic counterparts. To be constantly expecting the worst is like shooting yourself in the foot.
Nevertheless like Harvey Mackay I am aware that people are free to make the choice for themselves as to whether they are going to be an optimist or a pessimist. I’m just glad I made the choice that will make my life the happiest!
ARE YOU A WINNER?
“You’ve got to win in your mind before you win in your life.” – John Addison
Everything that we can see in the physical world originates from a thought that someone has had. In a cause and effect universe creation begins within the mind. The reason why you live where you live and do what you do is all down to the thoughts you’ve had in the past.
Our beliefs about ourselves and our place in the world have their beginnings in our observations of others or more specifically in what people have said to us especially when describing their thoughts about us. But, it has always been our choice as to what we accept and reject from our interactions with others and the world.
Are you a winner? Is that how you see yourself? You may have heard others say encouraging things about you, but did you latch onto those words or have you instead accepted the negative things that have been said about you as the truth?
Now that you can hopefully see the connection between your thoughts and the way things work out for you in your life, are you going to allow anyone else’s description of you to replace your preferred definition of yourself as a winner?
To be a winner, first you must declare to yourself with certainty that you are a winner! This may seem hard thing to do, but each one of us has had times when things have gone well for us; we need to focus our memories on winning, because such a focus will result in us having a winning life.
“I will speak ill of no one and speak all the good I know of everybody.” – Andrew Jackson
I want to look at the above quotation in light of the words of Ken Keyes Jnr. who said “A loving person lives in a loving world. A hostile person lives in a hostile world. Everyone you meet is your mirror!” As we consider both statements we can see that those who say bad things about people, and criticize those who don’t come up to their standards will live a negative and self defeating life.
We reveal more about ourselves by the words that come out of our
mouths, than is revealed in the content of what we say. Andrew
Jackson reveals himself as a person who has determined to see the
good in others and to remain silent of their faults. However naive this outlook may at first seem to be, Jackson doesn’t only gain the result of being one who “lives in a loving world” but also encourages those around him to live in such a world too.
If you only ever speak words of love and kindness, only ever do acts of love and kindness, then others will usually respond to you in kind and your world will be a loving one. It is not naive to determine to speak ill of no one and to tell of only the good things you see in others, unless of course by doing so you are blinded to their human faults and failings.
OUTSIDE THE BOX
“Successful leaders recognize that great innovation comes from
observing the same ideas as everyone else and seeing something
different.” – Reed Markham
Can you think outside the box? Do you think outside the box? It’s easy to play “follow my leader” but the question must always be: “Where is the leader taking us?” If we are not careful we could be following someone who hasn’t understood what is happening and then we may end up being “lemmings off the cliff.”
Thinking independently of others, may not only become the path you can take to becoming a leader; thinking for yourself, may even save your life! Just because the crowd is running in a particular
direction in a fire, doesn’t necessarily mean that they know the best way to escape the burning building.
Innovation is something worth getting involved with, but to become innovative yourself needs you to step away from the “way it’s always been done” and ask how could we do the same things better or differently next time?
When I was a child I used to play a game called “Country, County, Town.” The person who ran the game picked a letter of the alphabet and asked those playing to write down the name of a country beginning with that letter, followed by a County, Town, Fish, Fruit, Flower, Animal, Bird, Tree, Boy’s Name, Girl’s Name, Colour etc.
Points were awarded as follows: one point is you wrote down an
answer that was the same as someone else’s, seven points if you got the same answer as the person whose game it was and ten points for an original answer. I didn’t realize it at the time but it helped me to begin thinking outside the box! It’s a game worth sharing with your family and friends.
THE BEST ADVICE
Written and © Copyright 2006
By Andrew Paul Smith 17-12-2006
Do you ever dare to dream believe expect
That your wishes will all come true
Do you know what life’s preparing
Right now, is entirely up to you
You create your own reality
You manifest what comes your way
Whatever you’ve deep down desired
Is filling your life today
Your focus and your speech
Both inner talk and the out loud
Have made up your life and plans
Made you sad or made you proud
So use your feelings to desire
Things good and never bad
It’s the best advice you can receive
It will make you happy and glad
Let today become the last day
You thought about what isn’t
And celebrate your life from now
And be someone who has listened
THE WILL TO WIN
“If you have the will to win, you have achieved half your success; if you don’t, you have achieved half your failure.” – David Ambrose
Henry Ford said “If you think you can, if you think you can’t, either way you’re right!” Our achievements and our failures are both intertwined in our thinking. The common denominator is our faith or our disbelief, which I’m sure you recognize are two sides of the same coin.
Your attitude towards anything reflects your level of belief in you having the outcome you seek. Self belief goes a long way towards you having the certainty that things will work out in your favour. The “will to win” also gives you the edge on any goal or project you set yourself and the lack of it will harm your cause more than you know.
So the question for you today is; are you choosing your goals and projects wisely? In light of today’s quotation it seems the right thing to do is to make sure that whatever you set your dreams upon that you first examine whether you have “the will to win” or not. If you have then it’s time to forge ahead; if you haven’t then you need to think again.
At first glance the project you have in mind if you haven’t got the required “will to win” seems to be a non-starter and yet if you can find the resolve somehow, by finding new motivation and determination, then you can still succeed!
SUCCESS IS A LIFE WELL LIVED!
“He has achieved success who has lived well, laughed often and
loved much.” – Bessie Anderson Stanley
Would you describe your life in terms of being someone who has lived well, laughed often and loved much? If you have, then it seems likely to me that you have felt a level of success in your life. It is possible though, that because this is the way you experience life that you haven’t realized what a success you really are!
You see if you have lived well, and filled your life with the people, places and experiences that you have dreamed of. If you have lived each day doing the things that you have chosen to do, without worry or sadness about what will happen as a result. If you know that tomorrow you will be able to happily continue with the life you now have, in my book that is success!
Laughter is something that eludes many people; their lives are so focused on keeping body and soul together. They go about
desperately trying to prove themselves right and the world and
everyone else in it wrong. They compare their lot in life either with friends and family, or worse still the lives of celebrities and very soon there is nothing to laugh at. A healthy and happy life by its nature has laughter and heartfelt joy in it!
To live without love in your life, is like going to the cinema and standing in the queue for the tickets, but not going into the movie. Life is not about the love you receive from others, although that does play a part. Life is about giving and showing love and kindness. If you laugh and love regularly you will have found a level of success that eludes many people.
The more love you give out, the move love you will receive. Love is like kindness, it’s very hard to give away; because if you do give it away, it will keep returning to you! So are you living well? Do you laugh often, do you give away your love? If you do the joy and fulfilment that accompanies success will be yours!
FORGETTING THE DISAPPOINTMENTS OF THE PAST
“It is wise to keep in mind that neither success nor failure is ever final.” – Roger Babson
I’m sure you’ve heard it said “It’s not over till the fat lady sings!” Well as far as your life and mine are concerned, our success or failure cannot be finally asserted in any given area of our lives until we either die or chose to define our failure as such.
Richard Bandler who is one of the founders of N.L.P. (Neuro Linguistic Programming) said “Failure isn’t possible unless
you are willing to put a date on it!” Are there any occasions in the past when you have given up on a dream that was of great importance to you? Maybe it’s time to resurrect that desire and with the wisdom that you’ve gained since you put the goal away,
you may now be able to achieve it?
Your tenacity and resolve to achieve success may have strengthened in others areas of your life and you can now use
this new depth of character to succeed where you never thought
Forget the frustration and disappointment of the past! I know …
that’s like saying don’t think of pink elephants! To stop thinking about something you have to consider it first and then dismiss it! 🙂
So instead, decide to no longer allow the events of the past to have a bearing on today, chose to replace that anxiety with the certainty of knowing that failure is something we chose and it can be dismissed right now!
THE GREATEST CHALLENGE – TO BE WHO YOU WERE REALLY MEANT TO BE!
“I don’t have to be what nobody else wants me to be and I am not
afraid to be what I want to be.” – Muhammad Ali
Have you asserted the right to be your own person? As we are growing up we are told by parents, other family members and teachers how to behave, what is expected of us and if we are not careful we allow these people’s definition of who they want us or expect us to be, to define us for the rest of our lives.
Muhammad Ali is a personal hero of mine; there was a time when he
was a total nobody and yet today millions if not tens of millions of people know his name! First he asserted that he was the GREATEST HEAVYWEIGHT BOXER that ever lived, and then he changed his name because he didn’t want to have what he called the “slave” name of Cassius Clay.
He then took on the might of the American Government and refused
to fight in Vietnam, because he didn’t believe in killing anyone; especially people he had no argument with. They took his boxing title away from him, but he cleared his name and won the title back, which involved him, keeping fit even when he wasn’t allowed to defend his title.
There was an advert on TV in the UK about 10 years ago, I can’t
remember what product they were selling was, but it showed
Muhammad Ali talking to some children as the garbage van came into shot. He told the children that they could be whatever they wanted to be in life. He went on to say that if he had been a
garbage collector he would have been the GREATEST RUBBISH BIN
EMPTYING MAN that ever lived!
He was sat in a wheelchair because of the Parkinson’s disease which he now suffers from, but you could still see the twinkle in his eye! Take control of the definition inside your head of the person you are, be the GREATEST YOU, THAT YOU COULD EVER BE! Don’t settle for less than you really are!